I’m prepetually single, and for the most part, I like it that way. No one to answer to but myself. No one to worry about but myself. But every once in a while, I think that it would be nice to have a boyfriend again. And then I snap out of it and remember that I have a lot — A LOT — of things going on, and I need to focus myself and my energy on my goals, and when the time is right, and if it’s right, I’ll find somebody.
That being said, I was thinking the other night about what an old friend had said to me quite some time ago. We were having a late night discussion (beer may have been involved), and he told me something along the lines of “Girls who are hot are the ones we want to go home with tonight. Girls who are beautiful are the ones we want to spend the rest of our lives with.” And that got me thinking — then, several times after that, and now.
What he said makes sense. The quality of being “hot” is so transient. At best it will last a few years — being hot is generally based on the physical, and so many people lose their good looks as they age. Those who take good care of themselves, by fueling their bodies with the proper ingredients, can maintain their youthful appearance and good looks for far longer. Oranges will help you look good and feel good, people. Doritos won’t. Same goes for water. Vodka may look like water, but it’s not going to do for your body what water will do. Even if it is a hell of a lot more fun than plain ol’ H2O. (Side note: are screwdrivers neutral? Orange juice = good, vodka = bad. Combine and…?!)
So back to the transient quality of being hot. Hot doesn’t last very long. Just like a one night stand. It’s that instant gratification, and wanting something new and novel RIGHT NOW, but not wanting it forever.
I would much rather be considered beautiful. I think that beauty is only part physical. Sure there are beautiful people who have amazing faces and bodies. But it seems to me that the beautiful people also have an internal quality that, though invisible, somehow manifests itself physically. We can sense that beautiful people feel beautiful. They stand up straight, look you in the eye, and carry themselves more confidently. And I find confidence damn sexy. Beauty is as much something we can feel as it is something we can see. And the nice thing about beautiful people, is that they oftentimes make the people around them feel beautiful too.
So, while my goal in the long run is to feel beautiful, and be beautiful inside and out, it doesn’t stop me from sometimes wanting to be H-O-T! I’d like every once in a while, to be the girl that walks into a room and everybody turns their head and thinks DAMN! And I want to be told from time to time that I’m hot. How would that be for a major confidence boost? I think that everybody probably wants both from time to time.
But, since that will probably never happen (I have a big, crooked nose; little eyes; thin lips; and really broad shoulders), I’ll settle for feeling beautiful. Because I am comfortable with who I am and what I am. I’m strong physically and mentally, and I use my strengths to my advantage, to better myself and those around me. I’d rather be remembered in thirty years, than forgotten thirty minutes after I leave the bed of some guy whose name I don’t know.
Happy Wednesday, everybody! The weekend is just around the corner!